![]() ![]() I’ve wasted immeasurable time and energy dragging my heels, determined that I could wow everyone (or at least not disappoint them) if I just kept going - and going. Looking back on all the things I eventually quit, my only regret is I didn’t do it sooner. After all, isn’t every success story littered with setbacks, a battle of stamina versus everyone else’s ambivalence? Didn’t Beyoncé lose Star Search and Oprah get fired from her first TV job? Quitting is a sign you lack resilience and fortitude, or so I was raised to believe. Bad relationships, toxic workplaces, demanding sports - I’ve hung on for months and even years longer than I should have, convinced the situation would improve if I refused to give up. Not to brag, but I’m pretty good at sticking with things even when they get hard. If you have the opportunity and ability to earn income, and doing so will not have a significant impact on your care of your children (assuming they are healthy and do not require special care), the answer is yes.Photo-Illustration: by The Cut Photo: Getty Images ![]() Long term marriages (marriages of 10+ years) do make the issue more complicated but, again, it becomes a matter of specifics associated with the case. If an opportunity presents itself early on, you’ll want to consider that opportunity. Since a stay at home mom’s income may affect child and spousal support, the mother has to eventually work. Marriages of a short duration (defined as a marriage under 10 years) are easier to deal with because spousal support typically will not last for longer than half the duration of the marriage. Someone who has been unemployed for a short period of time, who consistently held down jobs before staying home with the kids and is well qualified for work will be viewed differently than someone who has been out of work for an extended period of time, doesn’t own a college degree, and has little to no consistent work history. The court is required to look at the ability and opportunity to work and determine, based on its discretion, whether income should be provided to the stay at home mom. The skills and job qualifications of the stay at home mom A stay at home mom going through a divorce who cares for several young children who have disabilities is going to be treated differently than a stay at home mom who has healthy teenagers. What fathers and stay at home moms should understand is the court will take into consideration the children’s needs when evaluating whether or not the stay at home mom should get a job. ![]() Whether or not to quickly get a job is a question that comes up often due to 2 recurring themes: the ability to care for children, and the potential impact on child and spousal support. This large window of unemployment can cause a few complicating issues in the divorce case. Many stay at home parents have likely been out of the workforce for many years, especially in long-term marriages. ![]() Stay at home moms who divorce experience the same stress and anxieties any other parent goes through during this challenging chapter of life. Now that we’re getting divorced, should I start looking for a job? During my entire marriage, I’ve been a stay-at-home parent while my husband worked to support the household. ![]()
0 Comments
Leave a Reply. |
AuthorWrite something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview. ArchivesCategories |